Shifting Our Focus

“Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That’s the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what’s left, that’s the part you have to make up as you go.”

– Katherine Weber

I came across this quote today and it hit me like a slap in the face. I wasn’t searching for quotes; it was just there like it was meant for me to read. I really started to think about my life, my thoughts, and my attitude towards certain things. For the last number of years (too many years to put an exact number on), I have said to myself, “my life is a series of losses.” It is all I have been focusing on. My losses. My life has been one loss after another. Whether it is a loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of money, or a number of other things; my life is a series of losses. However, I am not the only one who is alive on this planet. So many others feel the same way as I do. So many others have it worse off than I do. Our eyes are sometimes open only to our pain and closed to the pain other people go through. We get lost in our own pain all too often. We forget what matters. We give up. Once we start shifting our focus to others and helping others, our own lives improve as well. Not only do we make someone else feel better, but we feel better for helping someone else. I will slip and lose my focus from time to time, but before my life ends, I am hoping to help other people see things in a more positive light. After all, isn’t that what we were put on this planet for?

Does It Really Matter?

Life. There is so much to do and so much to say. So much to concentrate on and so much to forget. Some things to worry about and most things to let go.  Certain things to accomplish and some to throw out the window.

Does it really matter if we drive 85mph in a 70mph zone just to get somewhere two minutes faster? Does it really matter if I write this blog all in first person or part in first person, second person, and third person? Does it really matter if I follow a diet so to speak or eat and drink what I want in moderation? Does it really matter if I am 110 pounds or 160 pounds? Does it really matter what others think or what I think? Does it really matter if I stay up till 10pm or 2am? Does it really matter if I am not working, working part time or working full time? Does it really matter that I have two college degree’s and not using either of them? Am I doing what I love? Am I doing what I want to do? Am I doing what makes me happy? Well, there you go!

Figure out what is important to you, follow it, and do it.  Something I have learned over and over again is we are here one day and gone the next. It first started with my son being in my belly one day & gone seconds later. Then my oldest brother was here one day & gone minutes later. My daughter was here one day and gone hours later. My second oldest brother was here one day and gone the next. So on and so on and so on……

The older I get, the less I worry. The older I get, the more I realize what is important and what is not important. As long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else, the older I get, the more I do what makes me happy.

Don’t let life get in the way of what you want to do.

 

 

 

About all you c…

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About all you can do in life is be who you are. Some people will love you for you. Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.
– Rita Mae Brown

Be all you can be! How many times have we all heard that phrase? How many of us have listened? I think my ears are now just starting to listen. I think my heart is now just starting to open up to the possibilities of what life can bring if you work towards it and want it bad enough.

Be yourself. Be true to yourself. Live a good life, but be yourself. Besides, it is no fun being someone else! Don’t let the “what if’s?” get you down or discourage you. Don’t worry about what others think of you. “…Most will love you for what you can do for them, and some won’t like you at all.” Yes, there will be some people in your life who will only like you because of what you are doing for them (people at work, maybe) and other people won’t like you at all. “About all you can do it in life is be who you are.” It all comes down to that. Live a good life, but be who you are!

Letting Go

ImageSearching the internet today I came across this quote that made me think about the opposite of “reaching for the stars”. I am not setting out to burst anyone’s bubble, to discourage anyone, or to even discourage myself, but in anyone’s life there comes a time when we have to walk that line of letting go or holding on.

There is always a lot of talk and advice about going for your dreams and not giving up. There are so many positive messages about doing what you love and completing your goals. I know people who write down their own goals and once they accomplish them, they check that off their list. That is great and if it works for them, good for them. The message is, if you work hard enough towards something you will accomplish what you set out to do. Dreams are worth going for. Hold on to those dreams. I do believe in all of that, but there comes a time when you need to decide to either let go or keep going.

There are situations in everyone’s life where it is time to let go of the hurt, the anger, and the frustration. It could be a friend hurt you, your job interview didn’t go well, you were let go from your job, someone said something negative about you or your dreams, or your goals are not developing like you thought they would. Whatever is holding you down, whatever is discouraging you, whatever is hurting you, there comes a time to let go of that hurt. There needs to be more forgiveness in this world. Not just forgiveness towards others, but forgiveness of yourself. Know one is perfect. It may seem like everyone else around you is leading this perfect, happy life, but that is not the case. Be patient with yourself and begin to let go of any situation, any memory, any comment or wrong thing said about you, and let it go. It is bringing you down and stopping you from doing what you love and stopping you from reaching your goals. Stop comparing yourself to others and concentrate on your own journey. Know matter what anyone says, it doesn’t hurt you at all to do nothing in certain situations. Allow yourself to live and let life play out. Let whatever is going to happen, to happen. Then deal with it accordingly. Life is too short to wake up each morning with depression, anxiety, worries, hurt, and frustration. Just let yourself simply be! Take a deep breath and release all the disappointment and hurt whether it was brought on by yourself or someone else. It doesn’t matter. Just let it go, move on, and “reach for the stars!”

Life is about n…

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Life is about not having answers, taking chances and risks and making the most of every moment, all without knowing what is going to happen next.
– Ed and Deb Shapiro, spiritual teachers

I keep all of my favorite quotes in a journal. Every time I come across a quote that I love, I write it down. I think I need to start reading them more. So many good quotes to remind me on how to live my life.  Sometimes I need to be reminded to think a different way, to try something new, to stop worrying, to live life to the fullest, and not to judge people.

This quote hits home because I am always afraid to try something new. What if something bad happens? What if I don’t like it? What if I don’t succeed? What happens if it doesn’t turn out the way I expected? What will my family and friends think? I have a reason for everything to not to try something new.

It is time to start taking my own advice on my blog posts. It is hard to stop worrying. It is hard to branch out and try something new. All the doubt and anxiety that goes along with it for me. It is time to try to put that behind me and move on. It is time to begin to let that go and go for what I want in life with out being scared of “what if?”