Conquer Your Fears

You don’t drown by falling in the water. You drown by staying there.                             ~ Author Unknown

What are your dreams? Desires? Hopes? Wants? We all have them. How many of us do something about them? How many of us put ourselves out there and take a chance or a step forward toward those goals? I bet, not many. I sure don’t. It is safer that way. Sometimes doing nothing is comfortable and safe. It feels like slipping into a comfortable pair of sweat pants. Here, we are in our comfort zone. It is relaxing and there are no fears.

What would it feel like to jump out of your comfort zone? A little stressful maybe. Your heart would race. You might not know what to say, what to do, or even how to get started. All the fears and doubts you have would come to the surface. Those fears and doubts will try to hold you back and put you right back in your comfort zone. A person has to be stronger than their own comfort zone.

I can’t remember the last time I put myself out of my comfort zone. Well, I have very recently, but I am talking about before that! It is a concept many of us are not comfortable with. We are not doing ourselves a favor by sitting idle on our hands. We think we are, but we are not. I have two things that I want to do with my life before it is over. I have wanted it for some time, but being in my comfort zone is easier. I realized that not doing anything about it is not doing me any good.

One, I want to help the elderly and disabled by starting my own caregiver business. I have a huge need in me to help others. I think I can do a better job of it than if I work for another agency. I have done that and most agencies don’t know what they are doing.  It is a lot of work starting your own business. I do understand that. However, when I came across this idea, it felt like God was speaking to me personally. It felt like my calling. I sat on the idea for a while. Scared. Not really knowing what to do or how to get started. Leaving it alone was safer. Until now. I am taking the beginning steps of making this dream a reality.

Two, I want to have one piece of writing published before I die. It doesn’t matter if it is a small paragraph in Readers Digest, my Lions Club magazine, a short story, or a novel. It doesn’t matter if has a lot of publicity attached to it or not. It does not matter if I receive any kind of money in return for it or not. I just want something of mine published before I die. I have known this dream for a while and once again, it is safer to sit on the idea than to work towards it. I knew it was time to do something about it when I saw an add in my local newspaper about a writing class being offered. I actually was going to pass it up, but my husband encouraged me to sign up for it. Instead of the other way around, he is the one who actually gave me a talking to and told me to go for it!

So here I am, working towards the two things I want to accomplish before my time on this Earth is done. Instead of others passing me by on the way to their dreams, I am now walking right along with them. Conquer your fears. Take a chance. You never know what will happen if you don’t.

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Shifting Our Focus

“Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That’s the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what’s left, that’s the part you have to make up as you go.”

– Katherine Weber

I came across this quote today and it hit me like a slap in the face. I wasn’t searching for quotes; it was just there like it was meant for me to read. I really started to think about my life, my thoughts, and my attitude towards certain things. For the last number of years (too many years to put an exact number on), I have said to myself, “my life is a series of losses.” It is all I have been focusing on. My losses. My life has been one loss after another. Whether it is a loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of money, or a number of other things; my life is a series of losses. However, I am not the only one who is alive on this planet. So many others feel the same way as I do. So many others have it worse off than I do. Our eyes are sometimes open only to our pain and closed to the pain other people go through. We get lost in our own pain all too often. We forget what matters. We give up. Once we start shifting our focus to others and helping others, our own lives improve as well. Not only do we make someone else feel better, but we feel better for helping someone else. I will slip and lose my focus from time to time, but before my life ends, I am hoping to help other people see things in a more positive light. After all, isn’t that what we were put on this planet for?

It’s Not Too Late

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I am at a point in my life where I am closer to 40 years old than 30 years old. I know what most people are thinking; another blog post about someone feeling sorry for themselves about growing older. Nope, not going there, so give me a moment and keep reading. In fact, I would never want to be back in my teenage years or 20’s. Being a teenager and young adult is tough these days and I wouldn’t want to go back there.

I remember when I turned 30 and how hard of a time I had emotionally. I just couldn’t believe I was 30! Where does the time go? Now I am closer to 40 than 30. Six years later at the age of 36 and once again I am asking, “Where does the time go?” I am also a point in my life where I am asking, “What have I done with my life? What have I accomplished? What could I have done differently? Why didn’t I have the motivation, drive, or determination to accomplish more?” I do believe many people have times in their life where they ask these questions to themselves.

I am grateful I am asking myself these questions now when I am healthy and hopefully have many years ahead of me instead of the alternative. I can get that determination and motivation to do what I truly want to do. Instead of asking, “Why didn’t I do this?”, or “Why didn’t I try harder at this?”, I can ask ask myself, “What am I going to do now to go after what I want?”

I know I am not the only one asking myself these questions. We all do. Know matter how old we get, there is still time to accomplish what we want to do. There is still time to change our thinking. There is still time to help others. There is still time to live our life the way we want to. Whatever is holding us back, I encourage everyone to work through it, so we can have the life we dreamed of.

Go Through With Courage, Not Fearfulness

Mary Anne Radmacher - Courage“Courage is being scared to death & saddling up anyway.” –  John Wayne

So many people struggle through their day with one thing or another. People suffering is all around. It is on the news, in local communities, on social media, in ones families, etc… Just by turning on the TV or the computer, one can read, hear, and listen to people’s problems. Everyone has them. No one goes through life without struggling with something. Sounds depressing, doesn’t it? There is another side to all of this. So many people do struggle through their day, but most of them do not give up. Most of them have the courage and the strength to keep going and go after their dreams. Most of them want a better life and take small steps to improve their life or make their life happier. Most people have the strength to deal with bad news with courage. Whatever people are dealing with on a day to day basis, depressing as it can be, people get through it and move on.

Courage does not always scream out. It is not always visible. Sometimes it is hard to see, but it is there. People get through their day. They are able to deal with family struggles, work struggles, and other personal struggles. People have many tribulations thrown at them, but most have the courage to deal with them on a positive basis. This is a world filled mostly with strength, not weakness. It is a world filled mostly with courage, not giving up. It is a world filled mostly with satisfaction and pleasure, not anger. Next time there is a depressing situation on the news, in the local communities, in someone’s family, look on the bright side. Turn the situation around and look at it from a different angle. The world is filled mostly with good people, not bad people.

Letting Go

ImageSearching the internet today I came across this quote that made me think about the opposite of “reaching for the stars”. I am not setting out to burst anyone’s bubble, to discourage anyone, or to even discourage myself, but in anyone’s life there comes a time when we have to walk that line of letting go or holding on.

There is always a lot of talk and advice about going for your dreams and not giving up. There are so many positive messages about doing what you love and completing your goals. I know people who write down their own goals and once they accomplish them, they check that off their list. That is great and if it works for them, good for them. The message is, if you work hard enough towards something you will accomplish what you set out to do. Dreams are worth going for. Hold on to those dreams. I do believe in all of that, but there comes a time when you need to decide to either let go or keep going.

There are situations in everyone’s life where it is time to let go of the hurt, the anger, and the frustration. It could be a friend hurt you, your job interview didn’t go well, you were let go from your job, someone said something negative about you or your dreams, or your goals are not developing like you thought they would. Whatever is holding you down, whatever is discouraging you, whatever is hurting you, there comes a time to let go of that hurt. There needs to be more forgiveness in this world. Not just forgiveness towards others, but forgiveness of yourself. Know one is perfect. It may seem like everyone else around you is leading this perfect, happy life, but that is not the case. Be patient with yourself and begin to let go of any situation, any memory, any comment or wrong thing said about you, and let it go. It is bringing you down and stopping you from doing what you love and stopping you from reaching your goals. Stop comparing yourself to others and concentrate on your own journey. Know matter what anyone says, it doesn’t hurt you at all to do nothing in certain situations. Allow yourself to live and let life play out. Let whatever is going to happen, to happen. Then deal with it accordingly. Life is too short to wake up each morning with depression, anxiety, worries, hurt, and frustration. Just let yourself simply be! Take a deep breath and release all the disappointment and hurt whether it was brought on by yourself or someone else. It doesn’t matter. Just let it go, move on, and “reach for the stars!”