Shifting Our Focus

“Life seems sometimes like nothing more than a series of losses, from beginning to end. That’s the given. How you respond to those losses, what you make of what’s left, that’s the part you have to make up as you go.”

– Katherine Weber

I came across this quote today and it hit me like a slap in the face. I wasn’t searching for quotes; it was just there like it was meant for me to read. I really started to think about my life, my thoughts, and my attitude towards certain things. For the last number of years (too many years to put an exact number on), I have said to myself, “my life is a series of losses.” It is all I have been focusing on. My losses. My life has been one loss after another. Whether it is a loss of a loved one, the loss of a job, the loss of money, or a number of other things; my life is a series of losses. However, I am not the only one who is alive on this planet. So many others feel the same way as I do. So many others have it worse off than I do. Our eyes are sometimes open only to our pain and closed to the pain other people go through. We get lost in our own pain all too often. We forget what matters. We give up. Once we start shifting our focus to others and helping others, our own lives improve as well. Not only do we make someone else feel better, but we feel better for helping someone else. I will slip and lose my focus from time to time, but before my life ends, I am hoping to help other people see things in a more positive light. After all, isn’t that what we were put on this planet for?

Insomnia Jeopardy

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Insomnia Jeopardy

I am currently going through a period in my life where I have sleepless nights. For one reason or another, I am not sleeping well. I am tired at night, go to bed, and then I begin to toss and turn for hours. I either get up to write or stay in bed where I eventually fall asleep. I found this image online and had to laugh because the categories across the top are pretty much what is on my mind at night. I have gone through insomnia before and thought I had the issue dealt with, but now it seems to have found its way back to me.

There are so many people that deal with sleepless nights. For me it is because I have a wandering mind. I am not able to settle my mind down at night. So many thoughts and too many things I worry about. Not only have I started to take my own advice about what I write in my own blog posts, but I have also started a journal to record my thoughts. I was one of those girls who kept a journal when I was younger and even had a journal through high school, but eventually I stopped and got rid of them all so no one could ever read them. I figured if it is going to help me sleep at night, settle my mind down, and it might even inspire some story and blog ideas, starting a journal once again is worth a shot. Last night I even started to embrace my sleepless night. The house is quiet and lights are low. It is actually kind of peaceful. I was able to write for an hour and 45 minutes last night before my eyes started to tell me to go to bed.

Worries are not the only thing that is on my mind at night. Blog post ideas come to my mind at night. Story ideas come to my mind at night. My mind is most active at night. That is not always a bad thing as many idea’s seem to find me at night. If you are one that has never been bothered with sleepless nights on an ongoing basis, be thankful. Everyone has experienced a sleepless night or two here and there, but if you don’t have to deal with it a whole lot, you are one of the lucky ones. If you do, maybe start to embrace it like I have. Find something good about it. Something positive always comes out of every situation even if we personally do not know or find out about it. Once you start to embrace a situation and deal with it, you start to accept it and find ways to improve it and move on with your life. Find the good in all situations and your life will be better.

Why Worry?

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We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.                                         – Carlos Casteneda

Hi! My name is Lisa & I am a worrier! For as long as I can remember, I have always been on worry overload. “What if” this and “what if” that? I have never been one to relax very easily. There is always something on my mind and it usually involves worrying of some kind. Letting things go is difficult for me. I wonder at times how my blood pressure can be normal! I wonder how I made it this far in life without having a nervous breakdown. Or wait…maybe I have had a nervous breakdown! Either way, I am still alive and kicking.

I came across this quote and it made me stop and think about why I stress out so much. The quote says…”The amount of work is the same.” If I am doing the same amount of work in my worrying, why not put that effort into something positive? Even though it is so difficult for me to think positively and lessen my worry, I think it is time for me to try. A friend told me today that life has a way of working itself out. Most of the stuff we worry about, never comes true. How much longer will it take for me to actually believe that? I think it is time for me to take deep breaths, not worry about what is going to happen next week, next month, or next year, and just live. I am going to take my energy that I put into worrying and transfer that to something positive. I won’t be able to do that over night or even 100% of the time, but I can start on a different path towards a better way of living.

“It’s not how h…

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“It’s not how hard you hit. It’s how hard you get hit and keep moving forward” ~ Randy Pausch

This is one of my all time favorite quote’s. I have it memorized & often use it to get through my day. It is from the book, “The Last Lecture” by the late Randy Pausch. He was such an amazing guy and an inspiration to million’s. After getting a terminal illness he gave lectures, wrote a book, & made media appearances inspiring us all to live a better life. Could you do that? Would you be one to have a positive outlook, continue to live life to the fullest, and inspire others? I don’t know about you, but If I was given a terminal illness I am not sure how I would react. I am not sure I could do what he did. I don’t know if I could go on to inspire others. Would I hide in my house all day or would I “keep moving forward”? One never knows how we would react in certain situations unless they happen to you personally. We like to think we would go on to inspire others and help others until our time on Earth is done, but we never know unless it happens. I believe one of his messages to us is that we all have struggles. We all have hoops to jump through and hurdles to jump over. Don’t let those struggles beat you to the ground. Get up and keep moving. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. Don’t let anyone discourage you. Go for your dreams. Your dreams may seem impossible to you, but if you keep at them, you will succeed.